Result of bottled up pain
BY CECILY ASSON Monday, July 14 2014
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IN HAPPIER TIMES: Pamela Maharaj and common-law husband Sookdeo Ragoo share a moment in this undated photo. Ragoo shot Maharaj to death at Mosquito C...
WHEN men keep all of their pain and hurt bottled up inside them for too long, this is what it comes down to!
That’s how grief stricken father Sookdeo Ragoo, 87, summed up last Friday’s murder/suicide action of his son Donald Ragoo, 51.
“He never used to speak,” cried the elderly man. The older Ragoo said if his son had spoken to him of his problems he would have advised him against killing his common-law wife Pamela Maharaj, 40, and then committing suicide.
He added, “If he came to me I would have advised him that he was still young and not to do something like that. We had no idea that he could have done that.”
Newsday was told that Ragoo who was “depressed” and “frustrated” was not only terminally ill with cancer but recently lost a court battle for property he shared with his first common law wife Lynette. He had shared a relationship with Lynette for 19 years before she died five years ago. Ragoo was given two weeks to move out the two storey building which housed the Sea Queen Bar at Southern Main Road, Claxton Bay. The bar was not operating as he failed to have the courts transfer the bar licence to his name.
On Friday evening, police discovered the couple’s bodies floating face down in the water off Mosquito Creek, La Romaine. Both bodies bore single gunshot wounds to the head. Ragoo said his son should have spoken to him. “He should have let us know what was going on,” he continued. “He used to call me regularly but I haven’t seen him in three months and I believe he stayed away because he didn’t want to say much.”
One week ago, although his personal three bedroom concrete flat home in Crescent Drive, Claxton Bay was up for sale, Ragoo removed all the furniture and set it on fire, Newsday was told. Yesterday neighbours said he stacked tyres in the toilet and kitchen and set it alight and walked away. “We had to call the fire appliance as our home was threatened.”
On Friday he set fire to the bar in Claxton Bay — both buildings were partially burnt.
The loss of the bar hurt him most, Sookdeo said. Sister-in-law Deokie Ragoo told Newsday when they heard that he had lost the battle in court they invited him to come and live with them in San Fernando, but he turned down the offer. On Wednesday Deokie said she spoke to Pamela who was in a good mood but told them her husband was not speaking about his problems although he was hurting.
“He never told her much because he felt she would have informed us what was happening.” Both families who are now supporting each other in their grief further told Newsday that Ragoo and Pamela enjoyed a good relationship. And that is why one of Pamela’s relatives said he believed she agreed to die together with him. He said, “We don’t know what went on but I think she would have agreed that they die together because of the way they loved each other.
The couple, he said, was inseparable and Pamela was the one who has been taking care of him since he was diagnosed with prostrate and colon cancers 18 months ago. Autopsies are expected to be performed today at the Forensic Science Centre.
Investigations are continuing.